I know why your New Year’s resolutions failed last year. But, first, let me tell you a story.
The year was 1912. The doors of the Fairmont Copley Plaza Hotel opened with a star-studded gala – drenched with decadence, bedazzled with jewels and energized by the sounds and movements of clinking crystal, the soft echoes of laughter and the shuffle of ragtime dancers. All in attendance were granted a tour of the building, provoking them to ooh and aah at the seven-floor hotel’s abundance of luxuriant guest rooms and private suites.
It was a lavish occasion, oozing with opulence – one which would reserve its own space in Boston’s history.
The guests experienced a most pampering and relaxing affair. They lifted their glasses, toasting to the start of the hotel’s promising success. But, what they did not witness was the true magic of the hotel’s beginning: The hours Architect Henry Janeway Hardenbergh spent crafting and refining his vision.
And, there was also the limestone and brick-by-brick construction. The painting of the walls. The laying of the carpet. The ironing of the curtains. The hanging of the chandeliers. The hiring of the staff.
The story of that hotel was written – and continues to be written – every day, through every tiny and tedious detail. How easily we forget that every story’s foundation is built behind the curtain; not by what is declared under the light of the chandelier.
As we cut the tape and open our doors to welcome 2017, it is easy to glamorize. It’s a fresh, blank slate – a dazzling opportunity. New yoga mats, new meal plans, new hair, new shoes, new books, new lists, new journals, new planners, new affirmations.
On the surface, it appears we are all destined to really “get it right this time.” But, that which is lurking behind those new and shiny walls – holding our glamorous appearances together – will be the truth of whether or not our results last.
And, the truth is this: The majority of New Year’s resolutions are either abandoned entirely or crash and burn into obscurity. By the time Cupid draws back his bow, those yoga mats are often collecting dust. By the time summer invites us to come out and play, that business proposal may have long been shoved in the bottom of a drawer.
So, then, what is the catch? What is the key to a groundbreaking and sustaining 2017?
It’s quite simple. You need to conduct a thorough assessment of your architect. Yep.
Stay with me…
Ladies and Gentleman, Meet Your 2017 Dream Team
If Wish is the visionary of your story, Belief is the architect. So, let us consider what an architect does.
He collects creative ideas and maps out a plan for them to be realized. He decides what is possible for the venture, and takes action to implement it. He coordinates with builders and inspects the job site, deciding what will or will not be permitted. And, he oversees the project from beginning to end – even when it rains, construction is delayed, materials or lost or something goes awry.
Imagine this: Wish gives Belief an excitable nudge, suggesting, “A winding staircase! That would be lovely! Oh, and how about a place for a garden in the back?”
Depending on what kind of architect Belief is, he may respond in a variety of ways. If he is confident, open-minded and optimistic, he may say, “Absolutely, Wish. Let’s begin at once to make this happen!” But, if he was trained to be cautious and doubtful, he may instead say, “Don’t pester me with your silly ideas, Wish. This project is not worthy of that level of extravagance. We do not have the budget, the time nor the team.”
Or, worse, he may agree to Wish’s ideas but then grow frustrated somewhere along the way, walking away well before construction is complete.
The bottom line is this: If you don’t employ a mighty architect of belief, there won’t be anyone building your mighty dreams. Your ‘resolutions’ will remain elusive – floating around in the ether, bumping into all of the other magical ideas not yet realized.
That’s right. What I’m saying is that your beliefs and wishes must become business partners. They must be working alongside one another at the same construction site, staring at the same blueprint. Because the result of your 2017 will be the direct result of what you believe is possible for yourself.
You may be thinking, So, what do I do? Who is responsible for hiring my disaster of an architect Belief, anyway? And, how do I fire his ass?
This is the fun part.
Blame It On Your Brain, Baby!
First of all, it’s not exactly your fault.
When you were a small child, your brain waves were in a state called “theta.” You were downloading information, possessing almost no analytical skills. Your brain was like a sponge soaking up all of the conversations it overheard, all of the programs it viewed, the interactions it witnessed and the rules it was given. It learned which lines never to cross and which stones never to overturn. By way of impact and repetition, it learned your ABC’s. And, it also learned ideas about food, money, love, self-worth and religion.
Then, voila! Just like a computer hardwire program, your core beliefs and behaviors were imprinted.
But, guess what, baby? Even though you have come so far and learned so much, you’re still operating from that core programming today – yes, 20, 30, 40 or 50 years later. And, if it contains limiting information which conflicts with your wildest dreams, it panics each time you try to defy its boundaries. I’ll tell you why…
In the frontal portion of your brain’s temporal lobe lies your amygdala. He is almond-shaped and tiny, but he thinks he is the mighty guardian of security. Like the quintessential mall cop, he perceives the unexpected and different as a raucous and, thus, responds by releasing neurotransmitters and sounding off alarms. With hands in the air, he shouts, “Hold up! Excuse me. We have an intruder in the building!”
He is just trying to protect you, though.
This explains why most people have a frustrating time leaving a job they despise, untangling from an unfulfilling relationship or resisting unhealthy foods they have long indulged in. Contrarily, the individuals who stick with their intention to change careers, untangle from that relationship and forever alter their way of eating have tapped into a place much deeper within themselves – they have changed their belief and hijacked the information stored in their amygdala.
The good news is that by way of conscious repetition, as well as other methods I will soon discuss in a future program I will be launching on this site, your brain can be trained to accept new (and better!) information.
So, where to begin?
I suggest starting with what scares the hell out of you. Pain, fear and doubt are messengers; they tell us the areas we need to reassess and reassemble. They tell us where are wires our crossing, where our paint is chipping, where are pipes are molding, where are fault lines exist. They tell us what beliefs are keeping us from ever cutting the tape.
So, begin by asking yourself the following questions: What kind of life do I deserve? How does the life I feel I deserve compare to what I’m wishing for? What are my beliefs about money, love, luck, health and possibility? Do I trust the powers that be to have my back? Do I have my back?
You may have to do some time traveling. But, while you’re at it, begin nibbling on this…
In 2017, I Dare You to Prosper
©TheDailyDoll.com/Lacey Johnson 2016