This article is Edition II of a three-part series. You may read Edition I here. This edition is fairly lengthy, therefore it is only for those who are genuinely seeking methods for changing their life. If you are that person, pour yourself a glass of wine or a cup of coffee, find a comfortable place to sit and open yourself up to receive this information.
There are only a handful of subjects I am so passionate about that I am rendered unable to sleep at night, giddy over realizations, revelations and new information. My eyes won’t shut and my brain won’t stop chattering when I feel I have this treasure chest of information to share with people who need it. The content I am sharing in this article is one of those few subjects. It is important to me because I know how powerful it is. I know it can give you anything you want, and I know it will continue to give me more of what I want as well.
Excuse Me, Life? This Is Not What I Signed Up For…
Anyone who knew me well prior to the summer of 2011 would not hesitate to confirm my testament of transformation since that time. Four years ago, I was in a bad relationship I felt powerless to break free from. I often hid my unhappiness well, although secretly felt as though I lived inside of a prison. I was like a zombie, detached from the truth of myself. It was as though I was in a nightmare of a movie, trapped behind the wheel of a car I was too frantic to steer. Just like everything, it created a ripple effect within my life, and it was a dark and murky one.
The many positive aspects of my life in regards to my education and work were often tainted by the harsh reality that I did not love myself enough to walk away from what had become a dark storm cloud looming over my entire life. I didn’t want to live in a storm anymore. I was tired of sleeping with my phone under my pillow. I had grown tired of the constant accusations, the constant exchange of ammunition, and the shame of attempting to hide that I had, yet again, been unsuccessful at breaking away. I had become depleted of all energy to fake another smile.
Even on the best days, it was like being haunted. It was like living with a feeling of impending doom, for I knew as long as I remained in that relationship, my life was only going to get worse. It was never going to get better for, together, we were a catastrophic disaster. So, one day I decided to wake up. I recall the moment I felt the chains fall from my shoulders as I pinched myself, wondering if I had finally found my reset button. I stood in observance of an expiration date I once thought I would never live to see. You may be wondering how I did it. Read on…
Become Acquainted With Your Inner Architect
You are the architect of your life. Just like any architect crafting a lovely structure, you cannot control acts of God. You cannot control the weather. You cannot control what the person next to you is building. There is no button you can push which will change the family you were born into. However, you have much more control over the outcome of your structure than you may ever have imagined. I promise you. To access this control, you must examine your beliefs and the thoughts which are born from them. You may be ready to spit in my face and strangle me. Am I saying all of the bad things which have happened to you are your fault? Not entirely by any means, however I guarantee you have created many of your own storms without realizing it.
Your beliefs are writing the script for your life. They are crafting every chapter and every scene, and they are selecting every cast member to engage in the unfolding of your story. The trickiest part of this understanding is that your beliefs come from a combination of messages stored in your sub-conscious mind. These messages were communicated to you during your formative childhood years, as well as through various impactful experiences you have encountered throughout your life. By means of either repetition or deep emotional impact, the messages imprinted upon your sub-conscious and have remained with you throughout life. They grew with you, and they play a role in shaping every experience you have. They determine your knee-jerk reactions, your phobias, and the frustrating patterns you are bewildered by yet continue to find yourself in.
Consider instances of encountering a scent which instantly provoked an emotional response to stir within you. Its aroma may have given you butterflies as it ignited a passionate memory of a former love. Or, perhaps, the smell provoked a tornado of horror to stir in your mind as it replayed a negative experience. Either experience may have occurred years prior and has absolutely no power over your current life, however your body experienced emotions and physical sensations as though it was occurring in that exact moment. This is because the sub-conscious mind is always in the present moment.
It’s Time To Fire Your Current Bus Driver…
Your conscious mind is your alert, creative mind, yet the sub-conscious mind is driving your bus 90% of the time. The information contained within it can be your best friend, the ultimate chauffeur and the friendliest of tour guides, or it can be the very thing keeping you stuck on the side of the road with a flat tire. The problem is, you are unaware of it, for it is information operating on a sub-conscious level!
When I changed my life several years ago, I did so, in part, by becoming a dedicated student of myself. I was not just inspired to change my life; I was committed to doing so. I had to take responsibility for every unfortunate aspect of it. The first step you must take in order to change your life is to examine the thoughts you have when any aspect of your life goes awry. Do you revert to the trauma of a previous heartbreak each time your heart is broken? Do you ever feel as though there is a warrior inside of you being held captive by the demons of your past?
The key ingredient to my transformation was that I became fascinated with learning about myself. I delicately pulled every shameful skeleton from the closet of my mind and examined the thoughts which were like little devils tapping me on the shoulder each time I tried to depart from hell. I made a list of each crippling belief I had about myself and, for each of them, created its opposite. For example, “I am a prisoner of this relationship” became “I am as free as a bird.” Every day, multiple times a day, I proclaimed my affirmations aloud as well as inside of my own mind. I recited them while washing my hair, applying makeup, while in the drive-thru waiting for my latte and in between coffee sips.
Draw A New Map, And Your Life Will Follow…
Through the incredible process of being a student of myself, I began to increasingly gain immense respect for the life form I am. The wonder of it continues to bring tears to my eyes. I began to visualize what I desired my life to be. I visualized what a healthy relationship would feel like, fully engaging in the emotions which came as a result of those visualizations. I allowed the goose bumps to appear. In the beginning, it felt like wearing a dress fit for another woman’s body. It felt like a joke. However, as I pressed forward in spite of my initial discomfort, the more it began to to take on a comfortable shape.
I began to thank God for my newfound freedom. I became increasingly engaged in the practice of gratitude as I allowed it to flow through me, cleansing each of the lies away. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was creating new neural pathways in my brain. Those new neural pathways were remapping my life. This explains why the visualizations and affirmations felt foreign at first, but began to feel more comfortable with repetition. Once the information was received enough times to no longer be rejected, my new beliefs were as second-nature as riding a bike or brushing my teeth. Truly, by means of repetition and commitment, I dreamed, proclaimed and visualized a new life into existence. I had drawn a new map. It was so much easier and simpler than I had ever thought possible.
I realize you may be cynical of this information. It is not my intention to convince you or anyone of anything. I am completely comfortable with the fact that there are going to be skeptics, for the truth is I have no desire to prove anything to anyone. I know what I did with my own life, I know it worked, I know it continues to work, and that is all the confirmation I need. I am sharing this information for one reason only: It changed my life, and I feel compelled to pass it on to others who may be able to do the same. Please do not waste your precious life away! Do not discard another day.
Stay tuned for Edition III, which will further examine, in detail, various methods and practices for resetting your life! It is not only possible, but probable! I am cheering you on as you find your reset button.
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