Have you ever desired for absolutely everything in your life to stop? I’m serious. I’m not posing that question to you for the purposes of being sarcastic, generic, poetic or even funny. Have you ever had a momen of wanting to walk away from your life, climb up to the top of a mountain and have all that which was currently in motion – your job responsibilities, your class schedule, your phone calls, your text messages, your bills, the very ticking of the clock, the actual linear aspect of time in general – to stop? Have you ever felt like hitting a pause button? I was at such a state once. I thought if I could find a pause button, I could find a reset button. It was as though I was hunting for a reset button, but there was no button to be found. I wanted everything to stop, even for just an afternoon, because I felt it was the one and only way I could catch a breath and have feasible “time” to figure out my next move in life.
Well, as you are already aware, there is no such reset button. Or… what if there “sort of” is?
What if there is a way to reset your life? What if there is a vast world available to you with vividly blue skies and infinite sunshine, yet you have been unnecessarily confined to existing under a storm cloud? Perhaps there is mesmerizing beauty to marvel at and less rocky terrains waiting to be traveled, and all that is required is for you to alter the information in your mind in order to discover them? Perhaps there is a wondrous life waiting for you to reach out and grab, but you cannot because you are unable to see it. Your vision is strictly limited to only viewing a life you are not content with, and it is simply because the information in your brain is controlling your vision. Perhaps you do love your life, yet feel there are areas which could be better developed and less stressful. I have some exciting news to share with you.
I would like for you to take a moment to get still, close your eyes and travel back to a time when you were about five or six years old. Some of you may only have to travel about ten years, whereas many of you may have to travel 30 or more years. It doesn’t matter; just go there. Focus on that child – so innocent, so unscathed by life, so delicate and fragile, with a slate so beautifully blank and unaware of what was to transpire. I would like for you to consider some of the themes present during that time in your life. Who were your greatest influences? Were you nurtured? Did you spend a great deal of time alone, or were you often surrounded by others? Is there a specific instance, positive or negative, which stands in the forefront of your mind? If so, are there any life lessons you took from that specific instance? What types of events did you experience during this time? Are there any themes from that period which you have continued to experience in your adult life?
Between the ages of two and seven years, the human brain is like a sponge, constantly absorbing its environment. The majority of the time is spent in a state known as theta, which is quite different than the consciousness we have the ability to operate from as adults. Children are not fully conscious during this time and are constantly downloading information, which explains why a child will often mix the worlds of imagination and reality. Children have great difficulty understanding the differences between reality and imagination, as well as literal and symbolic references. There is little, if any, ability for analysis or insight. This is why the adult interaction observed by children is incredibly important to monitor.
A child under the age of seven should not be expected to interpret their observations appropriately. Scientist and author Bruce Lipton, whom I greatly admire, brilliantly explains that this time period in early childhood is essentially a period of “downloading information”. Our brains are absorbing the behavior of our parents, our culture and our communities. Our brains are downloading the information which will be the foundation for the programming of our sub-conscious minds. This is the information we will operate from for the rest of our lives unless we make extensive, conscious efforts to alter such information.
So often individuals are limited, even crippled, by the information stored in their sub-conscious minds. This is why after years of counseling, self-help books, “new starts” and pep talks, many continue to repeat certain bad habits or find themselves repeatedly knocked down by invisible hurdles. Have you ever felt puzzled by your own behavior? Have you ever wondered why you cannot seem to manage money well, report to class or work on time, stick to a workout or eating plan for more than a few months or why you cannot stop picking fights with your boyfriend? Have you ever wondered why certain foods make you feel comforted, while other foods evoke negative memories? Have you ever wondered why your brain always reverts back to a negative or depressed state, regardless of your efforts and vows to be positive?
The Answer Lies Within The Paradigm
Growing up, everyone knows an especially talented person they are quite sure will become rich and famous by the age of 25. Then, you and your peers become adults and scratch your heads in confusion as to why this person never achieved their dreams. They had the talent and work ethic, didn’t they? Perhaps growing up, a parent told them they would never amount to anything beyond the ordinary. Perhaps the child grew up in poverty and their parental figures repeatedly instilled them with beliefs that they, too, would never be able to escape it. Perhaps the child grew up to possess grand aspirations and immense talent, yet can never seem to attain success or make a sustainable income. An element of doubt is always lurking behind every goal they make.
One may even consciously tell their self, “I’m really going to achieve it this time!” However, until they change the information in their sub-conscious mind, which is in the driver’s seat 95% of the time, they will never make a permanent change. They will never “get it right”. Consciously one may be thinking a series of thoughts and may be making appropriate plans, yet are sub-consciously being controlled and driven by thoughts in direct conflict with their plans. Their conscious decisions will only sustain their goals for a short time before the faulty programming in their sub-conscious mind takes the reigns, yet again.
Perhaps a woman had a negative experience as a little girl, and was repeatedly told she was ugly. Maybe she had a mouth full of crooked teeth, was underweight and had a hideous haircut. Regardless of how beautiful of a woman she has grown up to be, she does not view herself as such. She may believe it for brief moments upon receiving a compliment, but it doesn’t “stick” with her. Everyone else believes it, but she doesn’t. She may have grown up to possess a gorgeous smile, perfect curves and may have the most enviable hair in her city, yet her sub-conscious mind remembers the years of ridicule. Her sub-conscious mind remembers the repetition of insults made in regards to her appearance, and in effect, has stored that information. This information, known as her paradigm, resides securely in her operating system and keeps her convinced that she is “ugly”. She will continue to revert back to that belief, particularly in the height of an insecure moment, when being dumped by a boyfriend or when met with even the slightest inkling of criticism about her appearance.
This is astonishingly powerful information when you think about it. I would like for you to marinate on this. It has the potential to change your life. I find myself overflowing with excitement each time I read about it, write about it or discuss it.
Growing Pains Are A Good Sign
Consider a time you may have embarked on a new fitness program. In the beginning stages, many of the movements may have felt uncomfortable and unnatural to you. Muscles you had not used in years or perhaps ever in your entire life may have begun to wake up, creating strange sensations. It is often an odd type of pain when disengaged muscles wake up, yet the workouts likely proved to benefit you greatly once you embraced them and learned them. Also, you body has never performed the movements therefore your brain does not recognize them. Give the information I’m presenting to you in this series a chance the same way you would give a new fitness program a chance. You may become beautifully transformed by the information in the same way your body would become beautifully transformed by a new form of fitness.
I created this article to prepare you for this series. This is merely an introduction. Many of you are likely familiar with this information, yet many of you are not at all. It may feel foreign to you. It may even make you feel uncomfortable and your immediate reaction may be to reject it. This is because we are conditioned to reject the things we do not understand or are unfamiliar with. When we are met with information which is in opposition to or in conflict with the information in our operating systems, it often does make us feel uncomfortable and we may not be able to process it at first. This is okay and completely normal. Just remember that even if it feels foreign to you initially, it does not mean it is wrong or harmful to you. In fact, it may be the missing piece which holds the key to the fulfillment of your dreams.
Just remember my ultimate goal is to keep you in the honest, informed, empowered and liberated state possible. My desire is for you to be as equipped as possible in order to create your best life possible. I want you to take control of your life and understand that you do not have to be a victim of any circumstance, past or present. You are in control.
If you have been looking for a reset button, I would like to help you find it. Stay tuned for Edition II…
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