Once there was a relationship in my life which was confusing for quite some time. Although I believe the person meant no specific harmful intent, their energy seemed to cast a darkness over me with almost every encounter.
Simply being in this person’s presence provoked feelings of anxiety and uneasiness. In fact, there were occasions when flashing warning signals indicating danger seemed to be desperate for my attention. Sometimes I heeded the warnings, however other times I simply marinated in the negativity and misery of such person’s company.
The Energy You Bring To Me Is Your Responsibility…
We are constantly in a state of energy exchange whenever we are in another’s presence. Consider the people you spend the most time with. Do you have a co-worker, friend or family member who, when you see their name appear on your phone as an incoming call, you experience an instant feeling of anxiety and dread? Perhaps you find yourself preferring to communicate via text message rather than engage in an actual conversation with them. They may have never done anything particularly terrible to you, yet merely hearing their voice or seeing their face often sends you to a negative place. What I am describing is your reaction to the energy they keep.
As human beings, we oftentimes allow ourselves to be miserable as long as we are comfortable. Change often brings with it an initial stage of discomfort. Our energy supplies may be so depleted that, although we know positive, uplifting company is what we desire and will never attain remaining in our current environment, we do not believe we possess the strength to take action.
Few understand that the company we keep is every bit as pertinent to our safety as the house or apartment you live in. Energy is contagious. If you are over the age of a fetus, you have likely heard the following lecture from parents and elders: “You become who you hang around! Hang out with them long enough, and you’ll be just like them!” I heard those words countless times growing up, but never understood them until years later.
We often disregard such warnings, however we actually do become, to varying degrees, “who we hang around” . This is because everything is energy, and energy is constantly engaged and exchanged. Much like a dreadful virus, negative energy can make its way into our minds, bodies and spirits, and have us wondering why we feel as sick, depressed, depleted or emotionally-exhausted as we do. On the other hand, consider how a simple hour-long encounter with a positive person often has a healing and rejuvenating effect. For example, the mere sound of my grandmother’s sweet voice has the ability to fill my heart with light on the darkest of nights.
Beware, For The Company You Keep Is Sure To Infect Your Head Space With Something
One morning a few years ago, I engaged in two phone conversations, consecutively, with two different friends. The first conversation was a friend I have long counted on to bring a smile to my heart, whereas the second conversation was with the aforementioned negative friend. In terms of energy, they hung out on opposite ends of the spectrum. The conversations were less than ten minutes apart, therefore I was able to take an accurate observation of the stark contrast between them. I had remarkably different physical and emotional responses to each of them. Both conversations were equally contagious, yet brought about vastly different results.
The first conversation I mentioned began with a chipper voice as bright as the sun, greeting me with celebration and enthusiasm. However, the second began with an immediate string of complaints, harshness, barking and swearing. The tones of their voices were even grossly contrasting. It was like being wrapped in a warm, fuzzy blanket in your ultimate of safe havens, only to be cast outside to weather a dark and stormy night. By default, I experienced an actual shift in my physical and emotional state within seconds into each of the conversations.
The positive conversation fed my energy bank, whereas the negative conversation began rapidly depleting it. A car will eventually fall apart if one only refuels often enough to keep the tank from emptying entirely. The energy banks we operate from as human beings are no different. You cannot thrive on a depleted energy reserve. Such is an example of the importance of monitoring not only the energy we are exposed to and give to others, but also the energy we make ourselves available to receive.
With every utterance and interaction, we are either infecting or blessing another’s head space. We must take responsibility for what we bring to others.
Energy is contagious, and there are a multitude of epidemics available to each of us every moment of every day. Many are lovely, whereas many are blood-sucking, life-draining and parasitic. It is no surprise my “dark and stormy” friend was constantly plagued with ailments, work-related problems, frustrating trips to the doctor and countless unhappy relationships. She often expressed that her negativity came from all of her physical and relationship problems, however I believe she had it all wrong. She was writing the script of her nightmare with her chronic negativity, for many of her ailments were direct result of her mindset.
She often expressed her feelings of being unable to “catch a break”, however I believe the problem lied in her refusal to allow the light to come in and penetrate her thoughts. When I chose to remove her from my life, almost every aspect of it improved. It was as though I was re-injuring and contaminating myself with every encounter we shared. It was as though I was sipping on a poisonous concoction with our every interaction. Once I removed the poison, and thereby stopped the exchange of negative energy, I became filled up to overflowing with positivity.
Choose your infections wisely.
I’m just being honest.