Ladies, if you are tired of drenching your pillow with tears or scratching your head in confusion, continue reading…
If He is Ignoring You, He Isn’t Interested. Period.
#1 He isn’t mad at you for not answering his most recent text message within five minutes and has, therefore, decided to ignore you. He isn’t pouting because you posted a #tbt of a picture with one of your old guy friends. He isn’t on the toilet with a vicious attack of diarrhea, he isn’t so stressed about work that he fears bothering you with the details, nor did he leave his phone charger on a boat somewhere. He is either entertaining someone else, or is currently uninterested in entertaining you. Regardless, move on…
#2 If he has a pattern of randomly disappearing only to later return with a string of lame excuses, you are either a “side chick” or a “plan b chick.” No quality guy randomly vanishes from a girl he truly respects and is interested in the possibility of building something with.
#3 If you are receiving mixed messages, he either has mixed feelings or is mixed up with more than one person.
#4 Men are simple creatures. They are not dissecting every move you make the same way you are dissecting their every move. Stop obsessing over his choice of emojis. Stop overcomplicating and overanalyzing everything.
He Will Do Whatever It Takes To Get The Girl…
#5 If he genuinely likes you, he will put forth the effort to take you on a date as soon as possible. Trust me. For example, my brother was so determined to seize the opportunity for a date with his (now) fiance, he took her to dinner despite being plagued with the most vicious stomach flu of his life.
My husband relocated to my city just one month after our first date. Even if the guy has no money, he will find a creative way to make a date happen. The moral of the stories is simple. When a man truly likes you, he has a tunnel-visioned mission: Get the girl.
If You Have To Compete, The Connection Is Weak…
#6 If your engaged or married ex-boyfriend claims he can’t stop thinking about you, it doesn’t mean he deems you as a more desirable catch than his wife. If that were true, why wouldn’t he have committed to you? Duh.
It doesn’t mean you have some overwhelming hold over him or that he even means what he is saying. It simply means he is either a douchebag or isn’t ready to be engaged or married.
#7 If you feel as though you must constantly compete with other women for his attention and affection, you are wasting your time. If he constantly references or compares you to other women, he is thinking about other women. Stop thinking that if you become a little bit more awesome, it will magically change. The two of you aren’t on the same page. Actually, you may not even be reading the same book.
The Road To Becoming A Blushing Bride Has Never Been ‘Booty Call Row’…
#8 If you do not respect the relationships of others, do not expect to have one of your own. If you have no problem sleeping with, flirting with or entertaining attention from a guy who is committed to someone else, you are solidifying your status as “not girlfriend material.” He may not tell you, but every time you engage in his bad behavior, he loses more respect for you.
Wake up. Learn to respect others and yourself. Stop scratching your head and wondering why you are always a side chick and never a girlfriend.
#9 If a guy floods your Snapchat with nearly-naked pictures and then requests the same from you, yet has never actually taken you on a date, stop assuming he likes you. He doesn’t. Stop deeming naked pictures from guys as a compliment. It isn’t. It simply means he does not view you as quality girlfriend material, but a mere means to get his rocks off. Period.
#10 If your behavior is promiscuous, that is your business. I do not stand in judgment of your life. However, I assure you it would be quite foolish to expect to become happily “wifed up” by casually sleeping with a guy and half of his friends.
No quality man is going to be interested in plucking you from your string of booty calls. Perhaps you enjoy being a booty call and, if so, congratulations. However, if you desire an actual relationship, thou must stop being a booty call.
Debbie Downer Will Never Be A Poster On His Wall…
#11 Stop nagging and complaining. Wipe the scowl from you face. Stop seeing the negative in everyone and everything. Just because you spend a great deal of time whining with your girlfriends does not mean he is going to be as willing of a participant in your negative ranting as they are.
Stop Pretending & Be Authentic…
#12 Stop pretending. If your life is a heartbroken or desperate mess yet you manage to gather yourself long enough to wipe the tear-induced mascara stains from under your eyes, touch up your eyeliner and – with cleavage on a platter -post a smiling selfie captioned with a profound, inspiring quote you obviously did not write (yet attempt to pass off as your own), you are just making yourself look stupid.
Stop pretending on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter to possess the depth and peacefulness of Deepak Chopra when your phone conversations and daily actions are shallow, ranting and meaningless. You are not fooling as many people as you think you are.
The only people you are fooling are the fools. Be authentic. An authentic, quality man will see through your inauthenticity.
I’m Just Being Honest.
©TheDailyDoll.com/Lacey Johnson 2015
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